So here's the deal, I'm a 23 guy from Finland, firstly drawn into the precipice of Tumblr by gifs from Supernatural, and finally flung myself to the abyss known as Superwholock, never finding a way out. Not that I've tried, mind you.
All the text posts about scenarios of Mickey being all sappy and sweet to Ian are so unrealistic. Mickey and Ian are both hard-asses raised in South-side Chicago. The way they show there love is by saying “fuck you”, not by cradling each others jaw and washing each others hair. Just because they’re gay guys it doesn’t mean they have to have a mushy love story. They are strong and willing to kick anybody’s ass if they have to. We need those kinds of role models for gay men. They aren’t all twinks who can’t hold their own.
Or you know, instead of treating them like they’re a trope, consider that they are multi-faceted human beings with a wide range of human emotions and that being tough and strong and showing softer emotions and enjoying affection do not have to be treated as mutually exclusive. They cuddle, and they can kill a man if they have to. They kid around and toss in a “fuck you” here and there, but still need reassurance through affection. Heck, they even enjoy affection. Wanting and needing and enjoying these things doesn’t make their life a mushy love story, nor does it revoke their “hard-ass” status.
The fact of the matter is that they have since season 1, shown signs of softness and deep caring that go beyond the stereotypes they face as boys raised in a tough neighborhood, with hands over hands, late-night talks in a baseball field, sleepovers to escape the bullshit they’re going through, and so on. That’s kinda the beauty of it, and they are wonderful role models in that regard, showing people in similar situations that they don’t have to fear all these other emotions, or that they can eventually grow to be okay with them, and that it’s okay if it is difficult.
The affection and vulnerability they show one another is a sort of strength that I am entirely uncomfortable seeing it undermined like this. They’re not “twinks” for showing softer emotions and being vulnerable. That is a stereotype of a certain type of gay boy or man, who is young or very young looking, near hairless and slim in build. It’s actually quite insulting and in some ways fetishizes young (underage) gay men in a very problematic way. Hence, why Mickey kneed that guy in the balls for addressing Ian like that.
Mickey is “sappy” and “sweet” in his own way when he is in an environment where he feels safe and secure. It’s entirely in character and there are a multitude of moments that highlight this. He swears, he drinks, he smokes, he can be a bit crude, and being this way with Ian, someone he trusts and cares about, doesn’t erase those other aspects of his personality. Mickey learning to accept affection and give affection has been something that has built up over the seasons, and it’s incredibly important considering that Mickey has been consistently denied affection and love in his own home.
Mickey is an abused person, and showing Mickey learning to trust, learning to accept affection, growing more confident in himself, having safe spaces to express himself, not having to put up a front 24/7, is incredibly important to people like him and don’t you ever suggest that learning to be soft and sappy and sweet makes him any less strong because it is literally one of the bravest things he’s done.